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Online Hypnotherapy and Depression: Online Help for Depressive Moods

People who are in a depressed phase use a lot of energy to feel better again. But no matter what they try, nothing seems to improve the situation. These attempts are blocked at the subconscious level and there are many reasons for this. Depression serves as a useful self-protection mechanism that prevents further energy from flowing into actions or relationships that do not bring positive results for the person concerned.

It is seldom that one event or one key experience that causes depression to break out, rather there are usually individual constellations of events and experiences in different phases of life that contribute to the development of depression. For some people, depressive phases also occur at different stages of life.

Symptoms and signs of depression

  • Persistent depressed mood
  • Loss of interest and pleasure in things that used to be fun
  • Listlessness
  • Decreased self-esteem and self-confidence
  • Narrowed thoughts, circling of thoughts
  • Negative and pessimistic outlook on the future
  • Sleep disturbances
  • Decreased concentration and attention
  • Loss of appetite and weight or weight gain

Symptoms on an emotional level

  • Frustration
  • Sadness
  • Anger and aggression
  • Hopelessness and helplessness
  • Feelings of guilt
  • Alternating between self-doubt, self-accusation and the feeling that others are to blame
  • Overstrain and strong inner restlessness

 

Accompanying physical symptoms of depression

  • Tightness and pressure in the chest
  • Lump in the throat
  • Gastrointestinal problems
  • Back and lower back pain
  • Headaches

People who are in a depressive phase underestimate their possibilities to change and cope with the situation themselves. In times of depression, they find it difficult to recognize their potential and resources.

 

How does depression arise?

Typical constellations that can lead to a long-term depressive episode are pent-up emotions due to disappointed expectations and disappointed feelings of justice in combination with a lack of self-efficacy, selfless behavior, lazy compromises, and achievements that were not valued and honored. Likewise, long-term insufficient demands can lead to depression.

Disappointed expectations and disappointed feelings of justice

If we have made an effort and these efforts have borne fruit, then we are satisfied. We experience ourselves as self-effective, have achieved our goal and our expectations have been met. If we have devoted a lot of time and energy to action over a long period, but these efforts have not brought any results, frustration, anger, and sadness result.

If we permanently experience little or no (self-)effectiveness in our actions, the energy runs empty, our expectations and our ideas of justice remain unfulfilled again and again, then we have the feeling that our inner basic assumptions have been shaken and we have been deceived. This results in hurt and aggression. If these feelings are suppressed and not processed appropriately, they build up inward and, in the case of depression, are directed against ourselves.

 

Lack of recognition and appreciation

Lots of individual examples from the professional and private lives of people who have fallen into depression, show that depression has a lot to do with the fact that over a long period little or no appreciation for one’s efforts is shown and that hopes, wishes, and ideas were not fulfilled. In some cases, phases of depression are combined with fear of loss. Often the awareness suddenly arises that the self-image does not match that of the people around us in important aspects. That our attitude was incorrect and that expectations and goals did not turn out to be real.

It is a mixture of negative emotions and sudden awareness of the facts that were previously suppressed. This can come with a wave of great emotional injury and permanently shake the self-esteem and the personal value system. We feel misunderstood, rejected, and dissatisfied with ourselves, but also with the situation. We feel like we´ve been tricked. We react to this with frustration and annoyance, later also with anger or thoughts of revenge, maybe with doggedness. Ultimately, however, the feeling of hurt, sadness, helplessness, and powerlessness appears.

 

End of the delusions

Disappointment means an end to the deception of others or yourself. This is accompanied by feelings of disillusionment and insecurity. Depression is often accompanied by a feeling of losing ground. With various examples of depressive episodes, it becomes clear that great efforts were made for a goal, but little or no adequate consideration was demanded it. That own needs were put far behind to achieve the goal, and that little or no own limits were set. From your point of view, your demands were not clear, neither for yourself nor for those around you.

The questions „What do I want and what are the consequences if I fail to achieve this goal for various reasons?“ were not asked. In times of depression, the subconscious tries to prevent investing even more energy in something that is not worthwhile, because the addition of life force was too long in disproportionate proportion to the result.

 

What causes depression?

There are numerous theories about the origins of depression. Biochemical processes in the brain (a lack of serotonin), genetically determined vulnerability and a gap in the perception of oneself, and an ideal image of oneself are explanatory models that alone are not sufficient for the complexity of depression. It also makes more sense to look at individual constellations of stressful life events and relationships.

 

Origins in your history

Many people who find themselves in depressive episodes have experienced in their childhood and adolescence that they have to put their interests and needs aside in order not to come into conflict with their caregivers. Many experienced devaluation and embarrassment, feelings of sometimes great helplessness and inadequacy, felt too much absorbed or faced with unsolvable tasks on their own, and saw themselves repeatedly or permanently in an inferior position. See also hurtful behavior of caregivers and parented children.

Those affected may have crossed boundaries in childhood and adolescence and were able to exercise little or no influence on stressful circumstances. Many or all attempts to change things have led nowhere. Caregivers who offered support and orientation were often missing or broke away. Many people found themselves again and again in situations that were overwhelming for them, in which they felt insecure, sad, and angry, but were alone and abandoned with their feelings, often misunderstood and unappreciated.

If we are exposed to these conditions over a long period, we unconsciously form the certainty that our actions will not be able to change our emotional state or the environment positively. The more often and more violently these experiences were made in childhood, the more unconscious negative beliefs manifested themselves, for example, „I am helpless.“, „I am worthless“, which leads us to consider ourselves deficient and the world hostile and perceive it destructively and view the future as unchangeable and negative.

 

Suppressed anger and aggression

Significantly, many people who are suffering from depression have a lot of anger and aggression and a great deal of assertiveness. These feelings were put on hold at an early stage for fear of deprivation of love and rejection and were not allowed to be lived out because they were not wanted by the caregivers, were viewed as inappropriate or the child felt that they had to put their feelings on hold for various reasons. Often there were experiences in which the child or adolescent came up short in competitive situations. As a result, arguments that are natural and important for self-assertion and self-efficacy have been avoided.

If we are confronted with negative feelings and situations but overwhelmed by them, then we suppress them as self-protection into the subconscious or split them off completely (see also split-off feelings and personality parts). The repressed and split-off feelings or parts, however, push into consciousness in later phases of life. And then when we find ourselves in situations in which we are consciously or unconsciously reminded of painful situations and feelings, e.g. from childhood and adolescence.

If the feelings remain unprocessed and the person invests again and again in relationships and circumstances that do not bring positive results for him or her, then the body and the psyche react with symptoms of depression. The negative emotions are directed against oneself and express themselves, for example, in self-reproach, self-accusation, and self-doubt, such as „It is my fault.“ or „I can not do anything.“

 

Hurtful behavior by caregivers

Children perceive consciously and unconsciously very finely when they have to put aside their own needs and wishes. This can happen when caregivers do not behave in an appropriate manner according to their role. For example by…

  • Overstrained, needy, helpless caregivers
  • Relationship breakdown
  • Withdrawal of love
  • Achievements were taken for granted or devalued. The child received little affirmation or only when he or she did something for others. Self-esteem and self-respect could not develop healthily. Later in life, self-esteem in people with a tendency to depressive episodes is often generated by acting useful and conforming to the expectations of others
  • Alcoholism and financial problems
  • Making the child feel guilty
  • Early loss of attachment figures: by giving away the child, death of an attachment figure, prolonged hospitalization, divorce of parents

 

The inner foundation and individual resilience

If the inner foundation has suffered cracks and ruptures in childhood, people can increasingly come into contact with people and situations in their further life that are hurtful and restrictive for them. These are partners, friends, teachers, professional and private situations. Injuries and negative feelings are passed on from generation to generation as a long-term consequence, either through transference and projections of feelings or through hurtful treatment of one’s children. See also „Long-term Consequences of Decreased Self-Esteem„.

For all experiences, the decisive factor for the occurrence of depression in later phases of life is how the experiences were individually experienced and assessed. The above lists do not necessarily lead to depression. This and also the severity of the depressive phases depend on how many positive and good experiences, as well as loving, trustworthy parts of the caregivers and other benevolent people, were present in addition to the negative circumstances.

Another decisive factor is individual resilience, that is, a person’s inherent resilience. At the same time, there are such unfavorable and unhealthy constellations in professional and private life in which even extremely resilient people slide into depression. In each case, the dose of negative experiences and feelings makes the poison.

 

How does Online Hypnotherapy for Depression work?

Online integral hypnotherapy for depression creates opportunities to correct one’s self-image and to sharpen and expand the structure of one’s personality.

This can enable you to create an appropriate framework for your own needs and limits after the sessions and to represent them without being emotionally charged. Experiencing self-efficacy again and having new experiences opens up a new perspective on life.

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